Red Flags to Look Out for in a New Relationship

Starting a new relationship can be an exciting experience, full of joy, and hope for the future. However, it’s essential to keep an eye out for any red flags that might indicate a potential relationship disaster. In this article, we’ll explore some common red flags to look out for in a new relationship and how to avoid them.

Lack of Communication

Communication is a vital aspect of any relationship, and if your partner is not willing to communicate openly and honestly, it’s a significant red flag. If your partner avoids difficult conversations or shuts down when you try to talk to them about your concerns, it may indicate that they are not interested in building a healthy, long-lasting relationship. In such a situation, you need to be clear with your expectations and have a candid conversation with your partner about the importance of communication in your relationship.

Lack of Respect

Respect is a critical component of any healthy relationship. If your partner does not show you respect, it may indicate that they do not value you as a person. If your partner belittles you, dismisses your opinions, or criticizes you in public, it’s a sign of disrespect that can lead to serious problems in the future. You need to set boundaries and make it clear to your partner that such behavior is unacceptable.

Control Issues

If your partner tries to control your behavior, your appearance, or your interactions with others, it’s a significant red flag. A healthy relationship is built on mutual trust, respect, and independence. If your partner tries to dictate your actions, it’s a clear sign of controlling behavior, which can lead to an abusive relationship. You need to be firm about your boundaries and assert your independence in such situations.

Dishonesty

Honesty is the foundation of any healthy relationship. If your partner is not honest with you, it’s a significant red flag. If your partner lies about small things, it’s a clear indication that they may not be truthful about more significant issues. You need to be honest with your partner about your expectations and have a candid conversation with them about their honesty and transparency.

Narcissism

A partner who is overly self-absorbed and obsessed with their own needs and wants may indicate narcissism. A narcissistic partner will make the relationship all about them and their needs, leaving you feeling unimportant and unheard. In such a relationship, your needs will always come last, and you may end up feeling emotionally drained and exhausted. You need to be cautious of such behavior and assert your needs and boundaries firmly.

Jealousy and Possessiveness

Jealousy and possessiveness are significant red flags in any relationship. If your partner is overly jealous, it may indicate that they do not trust you or have insecurities that they need to address. If your partner tries to control who you interact with, where you go, or what you wear, it’s a sign of possessiveness, which can be a precursor to an abusive relationship. You need to be clear about your boundaries and assert your independence firmly.

Disregard for your feelings – If your partner repeatedly disregards your feelings or dismisses your emotions, it’s a red flag that they may not value your emotional well-being. It’s essential to be with someone who understands and respects your feelings.

Lack of accountability – A partner who refuses to take responsibility for their actions or blames others for their mistakes is not someone who can be trusted. Accountability is essential in any relationship, and a lack of it can lead to a breakdown of trust and communication.

Inconsistent behavior – If your partner’s behavior and actions are inconsistent, it can be a significant red flag. This could mean they are hiding something or have a problem with being truthful. It’s important to pay attention to inconsistencies and address them with your partner.

Disrespectful behavior towards others – How your partner treats others, such as friends, family, or even strangers, can be an indicator of their character. If they are consistently disrespectful or rude to others, it’s a red flag that they may not have a genuine concern for other people’s feelings and well-being.

In conclusion, when starting a new relationship, it’s essential to keep an eye out for any red flags that may indicate a potential relationship disaster. Lack of communication, lack of respect, control issues, dishonesty, narcissism, and jealousy are some common red flags that you should look out for. You need to be firm about your boundaries and assert your independence, and have open and honest communication with your partner about your expectations. Remember, a healthy relationship is built on trust, respect, and mutual support.

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Here’s a question for you… What’s in identity shifting for you? The answer is EVERYTHING!

Before I get into the benefit of real Identity Shifting™ for you , let me tell you a story and see if you can relate…

There once was a child just like you, born with no clothes. From there the child’s story differs from yours unless when you were 3 weeks old your father picked you up, threw you across the room and as you slide down the wall, he walked out of the house to never return again.

Then you moved with your mom and brother across 4 states to the middle of Tennessee before you had lived a month and a half. Then when the child was 3 years old your mom picks you up from the babysitters and takes you on a long ride and before the evening is over you wind up in a strange place with a lot of strangers, sleeping in a room with 15 other 3-6 years, with your mom nowhere in site. This is your introduction to orphan life.

From the age of 3 through high school you grow up in two different orphanages. There is no national group to make things easier for you.  When you are eighteen you have to leave the orphanage and you are on your own. There is no National Association of Orphan People to get you any special treatment or breaks for college or job or business and you have no family to rely on. No kinfolk that you know of to co-sign a loan for a car or a business.

The only thing you have going for you is you know you are an orphan but it didn’t mean anything good or bad to you. It didn’t mean anyone owed you anything or that others had to treat you special. It meant other people had two parents and you grew up in an orphanage, nothing more, nothing less.

You thought people either liked you or didn’t, not based on your identity as an orphan but by how you and they interacted and what they thought of how you treated them. 

Now I know other people who grew up different with more advantages and opportunities that this child did and for some reason when things didn’t go their way instead of looking at what they could do differently to change the situation or learn how to improve their position they felt is was because of their age, or race or gender or religion.

There are only two basic things that get me about that…

1. it makes you a helpless victim, with no ability to change anything because those things are out of your control (except your religion) and
2.  it gives you the identity of someone who is disadvantaged and requires special treatment and so far it seems, most who get special treatment want more and more and more.

From my background in the spiritual awareness and personal development field, all these challenges can be traced to the individual’s self-worth, which is made up of how you see yourself (self-image) and what you say to themselves about how you see yourself (self-esteem).

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A girl, one of the most beautiful miracles in life, one of the greatest joys we can ever know, and one of the reasons why there is a little extra sunshine, laughter and happiness in your world today.
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10 things every GIRLS expect from you !

A girl, one of the most beautiful miracles in life, one of the greatest joys we can ever know, and one of the reasons why there is a little extra sunshine, laughter and happiness in your world today.
Courtesy: Unknown Author

Wondering what girls really expect from you? Well, these are a few things they want from you.

Girls love appreciation.
Girls are more emotional than boys.
Girls want you to believe in her.
She need little surprises.
Girls love someone who likes her imperfections and embraces his own.
She needs care.
Girls are more attracted to boys who make them laugh.
Girls want you to stand up for her.
She wants you to pick her up when she fall.
She want you to text her.

Personal Development Training – What’s In Identity Shifting For You?

Here’s a question for you… What’s in identity shifting for you? The answer is EVERYTHING!

Before I get into the benefit of real Identity Shifting™ for you , let me tell you a story and see if you can relate…

There once was a child just like you, born with no clothes. From there the child’s story differs from yours unless when you were 3 weeks old your father picked you up, threw you across the room and as you slide down the wall, he walked out of the house to never return again.

Then you moved with your mom and brother across 4 states to the middle of Tennessee before you had lived a month and a half. Then when the child was 3 years old your mom picks you up from the babysitters and takes you on a long ride and before the evening is over you wind up in a strange place with a lot of strangers, sleeping in a room with 15 other 3-6 years, with your mom nowhere in site. This is your introduction to orphan life.

From the age of 3 through high school you grow up in two different orphanages. There is no national group to make things easier for you.  When you are eighteen you have to leave the orphanage and you are on your own. There is no National Association of Orphan People to get you any special treatment or breaks for college or job or business and you have no family to rely on. No kinfolk that you know of to co-sign a loan for a car or a business.

The only thing you have going for you is you know you are an orphan but it didn’t mean anything good or bad to you. It didn’t mean anyone owed you anything or that others had to treat you special. It meant other people had two parents and you grew up in an orphanage, nothing more, nothing less.

You thought people either liked you or didn’t, not based on your identity as an orphan but by how you and they interacted and what they thought of how you treated them. 

Now I know other people who grew up different with more advantages and opportunities that this child did and for some reason when things didn’t go their way instead of looking at what they could do differently to change the situation or learn how to improve their position they felt is was because of their age, or race or gender or religion.

There are only two basic things that get me about that…

1. it makes you a helpless victim, with no ability to change anything because those things are out of your control (except your religion) and
2.  it gives you the identity of someone who is disadvantaged and requires special treatment and so far it seems, most who get special treatment want more and more and more.

From my background in the spiritual awareness and personal development field, all these challenges can be traced to the individual’s self-worth, which is made up of how you see yourself (self-image) and what you say to themselves about how you see yourself (self-esteem).

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Anxiety Attack Symptoms or The Way To Happiness

All is experienced as painful, even any happy times, and can’t feel love for family or show or feel real grief. People with acute anxiety disorder may have to be restrained, or hospitalized for their own safety or that of the community. And can gradually increase to a chronic state. In this case they would have been denied mother, as a baby, but also had attentions not of their satisfaction, as a surrogate mother, or nurse. This is were help for these conditions begins

Or how do we go the opposite way to happiness?

This works for some people with this symptom and can probably work for you too. You can also get a heating pad and put it on your neck. It’s normal to feel anxious when facing something difficult or dangerous, and mild anxiety can be a positive and useful experience. It’s also important to recognize that people who’ve developed posttraumatic stress disorder often have other types of problems, including substance abuse and other anxiety and mood disorders. Keeping your mind busy really can be beneficial in dealing with anxiety

When you first experience anxiety your doctor must be able to diagnose your complaint. Anxiety disorders are not uncontrollable or random. Medication can help to reduce anxiety disorder symptoms for some people, but it should never be considered a cure, nor should it be necessary for healthy living

Self-worth and how we perceive ourselves, determine the level of happiness we have.

Allowing yourself to be face to face with your lack of a sense of self, and self-identity may mean that you dont know how to feed yourself with emotionally nourishing food. Everything became a chore and he resented having to do things he used to do. However, the presence of at least 4 of the above symptoms strongly suggests that a person has a more serious panic disorder

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